You don’t have to stay stuck in the cycle. Let’s work together to create a family dynamic where everyone feels valued, respected, and understood.
Family Counselling:
Healing the Patterns of the Past
Break the Cycle of Hurt and Build Family Harmony
Family conflict can feel so confusing and overwhelming, especially when pain causes loved ones to unintentionally lash out or shut down and stonewall. Often, it’s the people we love the most who bear the brunt of our unresolved pain.
This is how pain patterns are passed down through generations—hurt and shame shut down real communication, preventing resolution and keeping families stuck in a loop of pain and conflict.
But there’s hope
Using my unique relationship therapy approach, Tapping into Relationships – eft², what was once seen as “impossible” or “too difficult” becomes not only possible but rewarding—and dare I say it, even uplifting and enjoyable!
How I Can
Help Your Family
I can support your family to transform the way you interact, moving from a place of defence to a place of connection.
Together, we will work to:
- Create Safety & Healing: Creating a safe space where every member feels secure enough to grow and thrive.
- Foster Empathy: Building a deep understanding of each other’s unique lived experiences and feelings.
- Discover New Paths: Replacing old triggers with new ways of interacting and connecting.
- Feel Understood: Ensuring every voice is heard within your family dynamic.
- Challenge Patterns: Identifying and dismantling damaging belief systems that have kept you stuck.
- Break the Chain: Ending transgenerational trauma where hurt simply creates further hurt.
- Cultivate Respect: Developing mutual respect, after healing what has happened in the past.
- Create Harmony: Building lasting peace through shared understanding and clear agreements.
- Open the Door: Creating the necessary space for genuine forgiveness and healing.
Why Choose
Family Counselling?
Family counselling isn’t just about “fixing” a problem; it’s about building a foundation.
Whether you are navigating deep-seated generational trauma, sudden communication breakdowns, or entrenched patterns of hurt, I provide the roadmap. By choosing therapy, you aren’t just resolving a fight—you are investing in a brighter, more connected future for your children and the generations to follow.
“The greatest legacy we can leave our children is the healing of our own trauma.”
Take the
First Step
Tapping into Relationships – eft²
Understanding the eft² Approach: The Science of Connection
Traditional talk therapy often focuses on communication techniques without addressing the deeper emotional and relational patterns. My unique Tapping into Relationships – eft² approach goes beyond this by combining two powerful tools for emotional and relational transformation:
- Emotionally Focused Family Therapy (EFT): This helps us map out the “relational dynamics” within your family. By identifying and addressing negative cycles—such as pursuing and withdrawing—we work to transform these patterns into secure, supportive bonds.
- Emotional Freedom Techniques (Tapping): When family members feel “triggered,” the brain’s stress response takes over, making rational communication nearly impossible. Tapping directly engages the nervous system, calming “fight-or-flight” and shutdown responses in real-time. Additionally, by leveraging the research-backed “borrowed benefits” of group tapping, families can experience an amplified calming effect, fostering a profound sense of safety and harmony.
Why this works for families
- Eases the Impact: It reduces the physiological intensity of family arguments.
- Rewires the Brain: It helps move the family from a state of defence to a state of curiosity and compassion, fostering lasting emotional resilience and connection.
- Accessible Tools: It gives family members practical tools they can use at home when emotions run high.
Change doesn’t happen by talking about the problem; it happens by creating a new experience of connection.
FAQs
It is common for one or two family members to be hesitant. The good news is that the family is a system; when one part of the system changes how they interact (using the eft² techniques), it forces the rest of the system to shift. We can start with whomever is willing to show up
Every family is different, and Tapping into Relationships – eft² is designed to be flexible, meeting each family where they are to create the changes they seek. We don’t just talk in circles; instead, we focus on fostering emotional transformation and meaningful reconnection. Some families notice a significant shift in just a few sessions, while unlearning deeper generational patterns may take more time.
Traditional therapy often relies on rigid cognitive strategies like communication skills for problem-solving, which are easily forgotten in the heat of an argument. Tapping into Relationships – eft² calms the nervous system and repairs the emotional bond at the heart of your relationship. By addressing physiological and emotional barriers, it rebuilds trust and fosters empathic understanding, creating a lasting connection that can navigate any challenge.
Not at all, however I do strongly encourage you to try this well researched technique. Tapping is a powerful tool for de-escalating high-conflict moments and clearing trauma, so that we can move at your family’s pace. I introduce further tools and techniques as they become relevant to your specific needs and comfort levels.
Sometimes, bringing long-buried hurts to the surface can feel intense. However, my role is to provide a safe, moderated environment—where these feelings can be expressed without causing further damage. We don’t just “open wounds”; we tend to them so they can finally be cleared and healed.