You don’t have to keep struggling against your own brain or your partner. Let’s work together to create a life—and a relationship—that works with your ADHD, not against it.
ADHD Therapy
Navigating Neurodiversity with Clarity and Connection
Our brains are all wired differently—and those differences define how we experience the world.
ADHD is more than just a challenge with focus—it affects all areas of executive function – emotional regulation, impulse control, organisational skills, working memory and simply managing daily responsibilities. Whether you’re seeking an ADHD Specialist in Melbourne to better navigate these challenges or looking for ways to strengthen your relationships, ADHD Counselling Melbourne offers a pathway from frustration to understanding and meaningful connection.
Why
ADHD-Informed Support Matters
For many adults, ADHD can lead to a lifetime of feeling “misunderstood” or “never enough.” In relationships, it often manifests as emotional volatility, communication breakdowns, or a “chore war” where the division of everyday responsibilities feels frustratingly unfair. Specialist ADHD Relationship Counselling helps move the focus away from blaming the individual, toward understanding the neurodivergent dynamic as a team.
Specialist Support for
Individuals & Couples
My practice provides a neurodiverse-affirming space where ADHD and AuDHD are viewed not as a deficit to be fixed, but as a dynamic to be understood. Through ADHD Therapy in Melbourne, I help you navigate
- Emotional Regulation: Managing Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) and the “highs and lows” of the ADHD emotional cycles.
- ADHD Couples Therapy: Addressing the “parent-child” dynamic that often develops when one partner carries the executive load and finds themself overfunctioning.
- Communication Bridges: Moving past the “he said/she said” to understand how ADHD impacts listening, memory, and follow-through on commitments.
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First Step Today
Tapping into the ADHD Brain
The eft² Approach
Traditional therapy can sometimes feel too slow or structured for the ADHD mind. My specialised approach, Tapping into Relationships – eft², is uniquely suited for ADHD Couples Counselling because it is active, somatic, and focused on immediate emotional regulation.
Instead of just talking about the problems, we use the eft² protocol to:
- Calm the ADHD Nervous System: Use Tapping to reduce the “noise” and overwhelm that leads to shutdown or blowups.
- Create External Structures: Build “ADHD-friendly” relationship habits that respect how your brain actually works.
- Rebuild Intimacy: Move past the resentment of forgotten tasks and commitments to rediscover the humour, passion and creativity that often come with Adult ADHD.
Why Choose an
ADHD Specialist in Melbourne?
Generic advice like “just use a shared planner” doesn’t work for a neurodivergent brain. By working with an ADHD Specialist in Melbourne, you gain access to tools designed for your specific neurology. Whether you need ADHD Couples Therapy to save your relationship or individual ADHD Counselling in Melbourne to reclaim your self-esteem, my trauma-informed, neuro-affirming lens ensures you feel seen and supported.
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Eliza
Trustindex verifies that the original source of the review is Google. I cannot speak highly enough of Tess- her warmth, care and compassion, her intelligence and knowledge that she brings to every session are truly incredible. She draws on a wealth of experience and deep understanding. Tess has guided me through some very challenging times in my life, always with kindness, a non-judgemental attitude, curiosity and showing me how to act with compassion and love towards myself. I am very grateful for the journey that we have been on together and the deep work that we continue to do collaboratively. It has made such a difference to my life, to my interpersonal relationships and my relationship with myself. Her great sense of humour and reflections are a wonderful antidote. Thank you so much Tess!
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Harriet Gerbert
Trustindex verifies that the original source of the review is Google. My partner and I began seeing Tess for 'preventative' therapy when we started dating 2 years ago, and she has helped us to build an incredible foundation for our life together. Tess is compassionate and insightful, and we come out of every session with new insights that help us understand each other, and ourselves, better - even when we think we've analysed the problem from every angle, Tess surprises us with an insight that unlocks repair and healing. Tess has also taught us the power of tapping for self-regulation, and this has helped us de-escalate many situations before they escalate. Thank you so much Tess for being with us through our issues big and small!
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Kelsey Smith
Trustindex verifies that the original source of the review is Google. A Wonderful experience- Looking forward to more Sessions I’ve had two sessions with Tess so far, and I’m genuinely excited to see where this journey takes me. My daughter recommended Tess after experiencing many sessions with her, and I can see why she speaks so highly of her. Tess has a reputation for being incredibly kind and effective, and she truly lives up to it. From the very beginning, Tess made me feel comfortable and heard. She has a unique ability to connect and get to the heart of what’s important to me, which felt almost intuitive. It’s like she has a sixth sense for understanding how I feel and what I need. Her approach is a beautiful balance of compassion, expertise and experience kind, she’s non-judgmental in a way that allows me to be completely open without fear of criticism. Her knowledge is vast, and it’s clear that she has a wealth of experience to draw from. But what stands out most is her ability to tailor her techniques to fit my personal situation. I feel like I’m in very capable hands, and I can already sense the positive shifts after just a couple of sessions. I’m looking forward to continuing my work with Tess and seeing where the process leads. If you’re looking for someone who combines warmth with expertise, Tess is definitely someone you should consider.
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Genevieve Smith
Trustindex verifies that the original source of the review is Google. I’m deeply grateful for the support and healing Tess has facilitated in me. Through our work together, I’ve experienced profound growth in both my interpersonal relationships and the relationship I have with myself. My emotional regulation and communication with loved ones have improved significantly, and I feel more grounded and connected than ever. Tess has a remarkable ability to guide me to the deeper issues beneath the surface while ensuring I never feel too raw or exposed in the process. Her approach is both gentle and effective, creating a space that feels safe, compassionate, and transformative. I’ve recommended Tess to friends and family who have also experienced meaningful healing under her guidance. I can’t recommend her highly enough.
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Sarah Wells
Trustindex verifies that the original source of the review is Google. Tess helped me heal and cope after being in an abusive marriage. I highly recommend her. She was understanding and guided me with achievable coping strategies that greatly improved mental health and helped balance my nervous system.
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Nicolas Derbyshire
Trustindex verifies that the original source of the review is Google. Wow, where to start! I feel like I owe Tess so much; not only has she helped me see and deal with the toxicity that had surrounded me for so long, she has also helped me understand and embrace my true self. Tess’s gentle guidance, wisdom and empathy are a gift for anyone that needs help navigating relationships that don’t feel right. I can’t express how much Tess has helped me and can only recommend that you consider her for your counselling!
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Kirsty Angus
Trustindex verifies that the original source of the review is Google. Tess clearly identified issues within my relationship immediately and more accurately than any other therapist had done before. She always works with kindness and offers a wholistic follow up and care.
FAQs
No. Many adults seek ADHD Therapy in Melbourne because they recognise the patterns in their lives, even without a formal clinical diagnosis. We can begin working on strategies and emotional regulation immediately. If you require a formal diagnosis for medication, I can help guide you toward a trusted ADHD Specialist in Melbourne for assessment.
Traditional relationship counselling often assumes both partners process information similarly. ADHD Couples Therapy acknowledges that behaviours like ‘forgetting a task’ often stem from executive dysfunction, not a lack of love. I prioritise emotional regulation to foster empathic reconnection, creating a space of compassionate curiosity. This allows partners to understand each other’s intent without rushing to judge outcomes, enabling them to co-create practical, mutually effective strategies.
Yes. This is a common reason couples seek ADHD Relationship Counselling. We move away from the “nagging” cycle and instead create collaborative systems that play to each partner’s strengths, using tools that account for the ADHD challenges with memory and initiation.
ADHD Relationship Counselling recognises the unique challenges of managing emotional regulation, including ADHD rage. While medication can play a significant role in supporting emotional balance, I can help you uncover the underlying triggers contributing to your anger outbursts. Together, we’ll work on strategies to manage these moments without losing your temper, fostering a sense of control and calm. I’ll also guide you in addressing and repairing relationships with those you may have hurt, creating a pathway for understanding, growth, and reconnection.
Absolutely. ADHD often runs in families. I provide support for parents navigating their own ADHD while raising neurodivergent children. My approach focuses on “emotion regulation coaching,” drawing on Dr. Stephen Porges’s theory to promote self-regulation. This helps you lead your family with greater patience and reduced burnout.