Thinking of counselling?
Some words of advice from an experienced counsellor!
You know who has the greatest chance of surviving cancer? Yes, the people who don’t delay and go and get that troubling symptom checked out!
It’s the same with counselling – the sooner you seek help to sort an issue, the simpler and easier it is to manage.
Why wait months, even years? Why put up with all that pain and worry, when it would be so much easier to sort out now, before layers upon layers of complexity and hurt are added to the primary problem? Just book that session!
Find the therapist that suits you.
Do your research. Explore your options. Book free ‘get to know your therapist’ chats.
Research shows, that feeling like you have a good rapport with your therapist is pivotal to successful outcomes in therapy.
That therapeutic relationship, needs to feel comfortable and safe enough that you can weather the emotional challenges of counselling.
You also want to check that your counsellor is well educated and up with the latest psychological research and methods. Get googling and asking friends for referrals and trust who feels right for you.
Set yourself up for success – be willing to commit to the process.
Most people need at least a few sessions. Short therapy is seen as 6, 8 or 12 sessions.
But best outcomes are achieved when those first few sessions can be done quite regularly – with a week or fortnight between sessions. Once major changes are gained, then you can space your appointments to consolidate those wonderful new gains. So commit to the time and expense. Put it in your calendar now – you will not regret it!
Be willing to give your counsellor feedback when something doesn’t feel ok for you.
I welcome negative feedback – oh, I don’t mean I enjoy stuffing up! But I do appreciate when my clients are brave enough to share their concerns, worries and upsets with me, because it allows me to provide them the best therapy nuanced to meet their needs. They are allowing me to be a successful therapist by ensuring they are getting the outcomes they want. It’s a win-win. Speak up, a good therapist will welcome even your negative feedback – especially your negative feedback!
If you’re taking the step to choose your first therapist, or maybe your sixth therapist, I really wish you well on your journey of healing. We all have the right to make changes.
Seize your opportunity to create change in your life!