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Narcissistic abuse and coercive control
Counselling after narcissistic abuse and coercive control
When there are no bruises, it can take years to name what is happening. You might feel like you are always walking on eggshells, always the one apologising, always second guessing your own memory. You might have been told that you are too sensitive or that it is all in your head. It is not.
I help people make sense of what has happened, create safety in their life, heal their trauma and recover their sense of self. I have done this work for over 20 years, and I see clients online anywhere in Australia (or the world), and face to face in Burrum Heads near Hervey Bay and in Camberwell, Melbourne.
Signs you might
recognise
- Your partner controls where you go, what you spend, who you see, or what you wear
- You are constantly dismissed, their criticism dressed up as a ‘concern’, or as a ‘joke’
- You are always the one apologising, just to keep the peace
- You are constantly being told you remember things wrongly, until you start to believe it
- The silent treatment is a punishment that has controlled you for too long
- You feel more anxious, uncertain and smaller than you used to
- You’ve become isolated from friends and family
My articles What is coercive control and But he never hit me go into this in greater detail.
If you are always the one keeping the peace, my Codependency Quiz may show you more than you expect.
How I
work
Where there is fear or control in a relationship, I work very mindfully. Couples counselling can exacerbate the controlling strategies and power dynamics, weaponising the therapy. So your safety comes first, then understanding, then rebuilding trust in yourself.
ADHD and
narcissism
ADHD and narcissistic traits can sometimes sit side by side, and the two are easy to confuse. Untangling which is which matters, because the therapeutic approaches required are very different. This is one of the complex areas of counselling that I know best.
Not ready for
one-on-one counselling?
My Managing or Leaving an Emotionally Immature Relationship group is a friendly, supportive, lower cost way to start. You join with other people who truly understand what you’re going through.
Book a free chat so we can discuss what would work best to support you right now.
Your safety
comes first
If you are in danger, call 000.
For confidential support at any time, call 1800RESPECT on 1800 737 732.
