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Desperate to be loved?

There are so many other titles, that would sit just as comfortably with this blog … Toxic Bonding. Stay, or leave? Aching…

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Choose love, not fear.

If I had to break my entire counselling philosophy and practice down into just 2 words, these two words would encapsulate the…

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Relationship Creep - what made it change? What's happened to us? Could it be Adult ADHD? The loss of intimacy, far too many fights and arguments, walking on eggshells afraid to raise an issue, carrying too much of the responsibility load. Just feeling so confused and lost.

HELP … my partner was unfaithful – What do I do?

What’s happened to us? Where did it go wrong? Is this relationship creep … the loss of intimacy, too many fights and…

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Thinking of counselling? 

Some words of advice from an experienced counsellor! Don’t delay!  You know who has the greatest chance of surviving cancer? Yes, the…

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The one mistake we all inevitably make in relationships.

We turn our feelings into facts! This is the biggest mistake that we make in our relationships, especially in the arguments of those…

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What makes a Good Life?

No matter who we are, what age we are, what job we do, what life we lead, what race, gender, or faith,…

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How to recognise emotionally abusive behaviour … PART B.

 ….  and what to do about it. STEP 1: If you suspect you are in an emotionally abusive relationship, dynamic or situation…

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How to recognise emotionally abusive behaviour … PART A.

… both the charming and the ugly.  Emotional abuse most often occurs covertly and usually escalates over time – that’s why any…

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We all stuff up … and we all need to know how to make up!

We’re all human.  We all make mistakes.  And we all need to learn how to give a heart felt apology, when we…

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What’s our nervous system got to do with relationship  counselling?

A LOT it turns out!  Once upon a time, about 40 or 50 years ago, relationship therapy was a cognitive process, where…

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How to tame your ‘Inner Critic’ so that it doesn’t sabotage all your relationships …

Got an ‘Inner Critic’ that you would like to silence for life?  They’re relentless aren’t they, berating us for what we did, or…

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Choose kindness …

Want to try an experiment, that I promise will change how you feel … for the better? What if you just chose…

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