What are the signs of Codependency?

• Do you feel responsible for your partner’s emotions and guilty when they are not happy?
• Do you find you cannot relax until everyone around you is ok?
• Do you say, “I’m fine”, when you are most definitely not, because you don’t want to be a burden to others?
• Does saying ‘no’ feel impossible or even dangerous, as if the relationship may not survive it?
• Have you lost touch with what you actually feel, need and enjoy?
• Are you always keeping the peace? (Well … peace for them, by sacrificing a piece of you.)

Sounding a bit too familiar? Don’t worry – you’re not broken. Codependency is not a character flaw. Often this pattern has roots in your early attachment models — the blueprint for connection you learned long before you ever chose a partner.

Codependency is giving to be loved — whilst hiding what you need.

Changing a Codependent Pattern is Important

A word of warning – Codependency makes you very attractive to abusers. I mean, what’s not to like? You will turn yourself inside out to meet their needs, all the while aching for yours to be seen, let alone met. It’s a perfect storm for trauma bonding and you don’t want that, do you?

Codependency is the ally of abusers.