Counselling General Archives - Tess Counselling

What is Trauma-Informed Relationship Therapy?

Relationships are the cornerstone of our emotional well-being, yet they can also be the source of deep pain and unresolved wounds. For…

Tapping - Emotional Freedom Technique - Calmness at the end of your fingertips. Tapping is a technique you take with you, so that no matter where you are, you can calm to reconnect in relationship.

Why do I use this weird tapping thing in my relationship therapy?

If you’ve never encountered Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT), also known as Tapping, it might seem a little strange at first. Imagine meeting…

Reaching for skilled and specialist counselling even when you can't meet face to face. Good therapy is accessible no matter where you are.

Online Counselling can be amazing …

As Long as You Have an Amazing Therapist! It’s not about the modality of therapy, but the therapist and the relationship you…

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RadicalACCEPTANCE, RadicalRESPONSIBILITY and RadicalLOVE …

Radical Acceptance, Radical Responsibility, and Radical Love: A Path to Transformation Who thought counselling could be so RADICAL? Radical Acceptance, Radical Responsibility,…

Abusive Love is not Love ... it is ABUSE! Not all relationships can improve with therapy.

Can counselling truly help every relationship?

What about toxic, manipulative, emotionally abusive, covert controlling, narcissistic relationships? The short answer is NO … well … sort of! Counselling is…

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Handling life … with the help of good therapy.

A deeply personal reflection … it’s only fair I be vulnerable, if I am inviting my clients to do so. The life…

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Planning your Wedding – will it be wedding day bliss or wedding day blues?

Congratulations … that’s so exciting! You’re getting married! Such a huge decision. Now, to plan your wedding day. Hmmm did some of…

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Desperate to be loved?

There are so many other titles, that would sit just as comfortably with this blog … Toxic Bonding. Stay, or leave? Aching…

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Choose love, not fear.

If I had to break my entire counselling philosophy and practice down into just 2 words, these two words would encapsulate the…

Relationship Creep - what made it change? What's happened to us? Could it be Adult ADHD? The loss of intimacy, far too many fights and arguments, walking on eggshells afraid to raise an issue, carrying too much of the responsibility load. Just feeling so confused and lost.

HELP … my partner was unfaithful – What do I do?

What’s happened to us? Where did it go wrong? Is this relationship creep … the loss of intimacy, too many fights and…

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Thinking of counselling?

Some words of advice from an experienced counsellor! Don’t delay! You know who has the greatest chance of surviving cancer? Yes, the…

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The one mistake we all inevitably make in relationships.

We turn our feelings into facts! This is the biggest mistake that we make in our relationships, especially in the arguments of those…

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